If you knew that you would die tomorrow, what would you be doing today?

This past week I signed up to become a member of this awesome community space called the Center for Social Change. During the member orientation, I was asked, "If you knew that you would die tomorrow, what would you be doing today?"

I love these thought provoking questions because they shock you into thinking about things outside of your daily routine forcing you to think and tap into your creativity. 

So what would you do? Would you spend your last day working at your 9-5? Would you spend it worrying about paying your bills or that the kitchen isn't clean? Would you leave the Earth stressed and worried? 

It was interesting to listen to the various answers that were said. One guy said he wanted to do lots of drugs and have lots of sex lol. The whole room of course chuckled at this answer but it was so honest. 

For the most part, the entire room said they wanted to be with family or away traveling and doing something really awesome. They all wanted to be surrounded by love and doing things that mattered and that they've always wanted to do. 

But why do we wait until our last moments to do this? Why do we wait until literally the day we die to do the things that matter in our lives or the things we've always wanted to do? Why wait? Why not do it now? Why do we continue to live the life we hate or aren't jumping up and down with joy for? Why do we stay in a relationship that we aren't passionate about or just kinda happy with? Why not be in one with someone we are crazy about? Why not live a life we are crazy about? And do things that make our heart sing? Why are we living life kinda happy? 

This is the sort of realization I had when I was on top of a mountain in the middle of the ocean on my honeymoon in the British Virgin Islands. I invested $200,000 and 3.5 years of my life in a career I was kinda happy with, but was giving me panic attacks. What the hell was I doing? Why was I slaving away when I only have one life?  Why the hell wasn't I enjoying my life NOW? I was so stressed during my honeymoon it was hard at first to enjoy the incredible beauty of the island and just to relax. It was this discovery that led me to choose to be happy now. To make the decision to live my life in a way that some might not agree with but to me, it was the only way. So I left my law firm and followed my heart. 

Following your heart is a daily decision. We need to first know what it means and feels to follow our hearts. I meet so many women who are just like me. They focused their entire lives on their professional lives and careers and then they have an oh shit moment. What now?? Who the hell am I? What do I want? 

My answer to this is this: 

You are SO lucky. You're lucky you didn't wait or have this Oh Shit moment when you found out you were going to die tomorrow. You are finding this out NOW when you have the WHOLE REST OF YOUR LIFE to live! How amazing is this!!

All it takes is a shift. A shift in perspective of I have so much missing in my life, to this is space for something new and exciting. When we look at our lives this way, we bring in gratitude, the energy that will shift your circumstances. 

Listen. The key to this journey is listening. Listening with your heart and your feelings.  Take note of your feelings as your daily life happens. What do you love doing? What excites you? If you can't hear anything, be still. Slow down for 3 minutes and meditate. If you don't have time for this, do you have time to feel like shit? Everything in our lives is a choice. 

Stay open and take action.  Once you find a way, any way, even if it's out of left field, explore it. We have tunnel vision in our own lives. The Universe on the other hand knows what we don't know and knows what's best for us. Try it, do it, take the leap. What's the worst thing that could happen? You might be the happiest you've ever dreamed of? 

This journey back to you, is the most beautiful journey you will every take of unfolding and becoming. It is what we are here for. To figure out who we are and as we love ourselves more because we are finally being who we are meant to be, we end up loving others more. It makes the world a better place. 

Don’t wait to begin your life, or live your dream. Find out more about my Next Level You Strategy Day and how you can move forward powerfully!

Until next time beauties!

Monica

Watch my TEDx Talk about my journey! 

https://youtu.be/A6jfvWnYsWM

 

Staying Motivated When Life Throws You a Curve Ball

When we feel numb or lack motivation, it feels impossible to grow our business or show up in life. Life is made up of cycles with ups and downs, so knowing how to react to these "lows" are essential to keeping momentum in your life and stay awake to opportunities. It is also important for our happiness and mental sanity. 

So how do we do this? How do we stay motivated when we feel like crap? 

1. BE PRESENT. Staying mindful and present is key here. You can do this by using your breath and body awareness. The presence is where the magic happens and where we are most happiest. We lose this when we are worried about the past or the future. 

2. GET UP AND MOVE. Our physiology has everything to do with how we feel. If you slump over or have a depressed posture, you will feel this same way emotionally and mentally. Do like Bob Marley and Get up, Stand up! Move your body and shake it off and you will literally shake off your funk.

3. DO SOMETHING THAT EXCITES YOU. Create opportunities where you feel excited and passionate. This can be dancing, being creative, being around people or working out. Do what works for you. This will create a feeling of inspiration and euphoria, the fuel behind motivation. 

4. GRATITUDE. What can you be thankful for right now? Sure, you're life isn't perfect, it won't ever be, so being thankful RIGHT NOW is vital to getting motivated. 

Here are the full steps and explanations: 

 

 

Alright, hope this helps! Please let me know what you think and as always, let me know what you want to hear! 

Create a Morning Ritual

When we wake up from sleep is a pivotal time in our day. Minutes after we open our eyes is called the twilight period. Our brain is still catching up and we are still not awake. Most of us reach for our phone right when we wake up and begin looking on social media or emails. This sets our day into reaction mode right from the start and we never get out of it. We are reacting and stuck in this cycle all day and it becomes harder to create space for strategy or creativity.

What can we do differently? How about start of your day consciously. Start it off with space and stillness. Check out my latest video to find out how you can set yourself up for success before you day even starts. 

This is what I personally do and it helps me tremendously. I'm not perfect of course, and when I grab for my phone, my day is significantly different than on days I stay away from technology and start with intentions. Hope this helps you as much as it has helped me! 

Intuition vs. Ego

Being human, allows us to experience the world through 2 different ways: the Self and the Ego. When we experience life through the Self or Spirit, we are aligned with our dharma, our path. We experience life as limitless possibilities and in a high vibration. We experience miracles, blessings and synchronicities, where life just seems to be working for us. Everything is going our way. We feel in control and intuned, attracting our desires and experiencing joy and fulfillment. When we experience life through the Ego, we look at life with fear-colored glasses. We are afraid to try new things, we judge moments and people, we fail to use creativity in our lives and our decisions and we do what we've always done. Through this experience, we feel disconnected, alone, afraid and weak. We forget that we are apart of the whole and life seems very unpredictable and scary. Every moment, we have a choice to decide how we want to live our life. Though Spirit or through Ego. When we live life through Spirit, we have full access and hear our intuition clearly. Our intuition is our inner GPS system that guides us along our spiritual journey, telling us to move forward or step back. When we are living in fear and through Ego, we have lots of noise in our mind and can usually not hear our intuition very well. Even if we did, because we are living in this way, there is a lack of trust that exists, which leads to more bad choices which leads to more mistrust. Check out my video below for tips on how to hear the difference- how to listen to our intuition. I even threw in a bonus meditation for you to start activating your intuition. Hope you enjoy!

 

 

As always, leave a comment below, let me know what you think, if you want to hear a particular topic or if you have a question. I am always available and have lots to share! Email me if you need some support: monica@SpiritualSuccessCoaching.com 

Have a beautiful day!! xoxo

7 Simple Secrets to Communicating Effectively

Communication has never been easy for me. In fact, I ran the other way when I had to communicate ANYTHING, especially if it was anything difficult. I was terrified of asking to get my needs met, and so they of course never got met. I was left feeling incomplete, and I ruined relationships left and right. This was no way to live. A business coach of mine once told me, "Anything can be solved with communication." She was right. So after lots of practice, and hard work, I learned how to communicate powerfully and effectively and from my heart. This skill can be used in so many situations and with any and all relationships in your life. Here is how I do  it: 

 

 

Kick Fear in the Bootay With These 7 Steps

Is fear stopping you in your tracks? Are you not doing something that would make all the difference in your life or business, because you're afraid of it? 

Fear invades us all. There is no real way to get away from it. But we can learn how to stay empowered and above the fear, it at least won't run your life. How you react to the circumstances in your life makes all the difference. 

Watch this video for 7 steps on how to kick fear in the behind and stay in the driver's seat. 

How You May Be Sabotaging Your Own Success and Personal Growth

As children, we are graded against each other, and we are picked against each other on the kick ball team during recess. As women, we grow up with supermodels and actresses in tiny bikinis, as our role models. We were born in competition and comparison.

The problem with this is: we are giving the wrong signals to the Universe that may be blocking our success and personal growth. 

Find out how to avoid this from happening and what to do in the event you find yourself in a position of jealousy or feeling less than awesome. 

What To Do When You Have Scatter Brain

We all get scattered from time to time. The to do list gets bigger and never seems to go away. Somehow our days are filled with stuff and super busy but nothing gets done. How is this possible? 

Watch this episode and find out why you may be getting scattered and what to do about it. 

Now it's your turn! Share with me how you stay focused and stay on track, I'd love to hear it! 

Wishing you lots of Spiritual Success, 

Monica Reyes

 

5 Ways to Stay Grounded When You're Having a Spiritual "Off" Day

I wish I could tell you that everyday will be filled with rainbows and butterflies. I wish I could tell you that you're going to feel amazing every single day, and there won't be downturns in your life. I would be lying. I also would be doing a disservice to you.

You see, our lives would be quite different without these downturns. We would be bland and exactly the same. The downturns are what shape us, refine us, humble us. They etch our "realness" into us so we can effectively help and serve humanity. They allow us to connect and to FEEL. They bring us perspective and strength. They are what make us human. I wouldn't want it any other way. 

There is a beauty in the breakdown, in the destruction of something old. In that destruction, lies a seed of new and better. And in new and better lies your happiness. It's the learning of life, and as we master each component, we grow and shape into who we're meant to be. Some of the learning is really hard and freaking sucks. And as you push yourself towards self-discovery, there is A LOT of learning. But what's right around the corner, is A LOT of happiness. A different kind of happiness. A deeper happiness. 

So how do we stay grounded and hunker down during our "learning time" or when we're having an "off" day?

  1. Remember You are Not alone. "The presence of fear is a sign, you're relaying on your own strength." - A Course of Miracles. We are not alone! We are SO far from it! The Universe has our back at all times. The world is a scary place when you think about about how small and fragile you are in this big unpredictable, scary world. But if you remember that you not only have your own strength to rely on, but the strength of the Universe, it's not so scary. And if you remember that at all times we are co-creating our lives with the Universe, all of a sudden we feel a little more powerful.  When was the last time you asked the Universe for direction or clarity on a situation? If it is anything less than daily, it's time to start. Especially when you're feeling down or powerless. Ask the Universe for strength or gratitude or love. Whatever you feel at the moment will bring you out of the funk. 

  2. Connect to Love. Love and fear cannot exist at the same time. So if you're feeling down, purposefully connect to love. Get around kids or puppies. Volunteer or serve. Get in front of nature or call your best friend. If you ask the Universe that this is what you need, the Universe will provide you with the way, the opportunity for love. Gratitude is the fastest way to raise your vibration. The first thing I tell my client when they sign on with me is to start a daily gratitude list. 5 Things they are grateful for (1 about themselves). This connects you to the vibration of gratitude, your heart opens, and you begin to align and attract what you love and desire. When our vibration is low, we are negative and we align and attract  things that are low in vibration such as sickness, disease, lack, bad luck etc. 
  3. Get Reconnected to the Universe. Meditation and practicing mindfulness are the best tools for reconnecting to the Universe. By practicing either of these, your capacity of awareness increases, allowing you to catch limiting behavior so you can correct it. You begin to live in the present more often so you are out of your head and out of the past and future. Your stress is reduced significantly and your ability to be neutral during tough times are increased. You'll probably experience synchronicities or coincidences more often, as you align and become more in tuned with the rhythm of the Universe. You'll feel lighter, and things will flow more easily. 
  4. Breathe. When in doubt, breathe. It's free, and always with you at all times. It is run by the intelligence of the Universe, so it will always bring you back to the present. Just breathe, focus on your breathing, and reconnect to the beauty of the stillness that lives within you. This will ground you immediately to the NOW. The now is where your power lies. You lose your power when you are in the past (because you can't change it), and when you are in the future (because it is uncertain and unknown). All you ever have is NOW. 
  5. Accept the moment. Accept the moment as if you have chosen it. A quote from Eckart Tolle that impacted me the most in my life. This forces you to embrace where you are, which is the first step to changing your life. You cannot move on from where you are until you embrace and accept where you are. This also shifts your perspective from reaction to empowerment. A key element to being happy and positive.

These are just 5 ways to get you grounded. There are so many tools and ways available to us to keep us rooted during tumultuous times. The goal is to find the balance between rooted and flexible. We want to be grounded and solid but we also want to be able to flow with change and remain flexible to what life brings our way. Being too attached to anything- the way you do things, even being attached to having a good day, is not healthy and can keep us stuck. Accepting that life is always changing, that everything is temporary and has an impermanence to it, is important and helpful. Life will have it's ups and downs, it is how you react that makes all the difference. 

A phrase that got me through some of the hardest times was, "This too shall pass". And it always does. The sun will always shine after the darkness, because that is the cycle of life. And we are a part of that cycle. 

Share any other tips and tools that you use to get through these times, I'd love to hear them! If you're still having a hard time, I have a formula I use to get through any situation or block I'd love to share with you. Let's Chat!

Sending you all Spiritual Success!

Monica 

 

Why YOU Should Go to the Women's Success Summit this November 19-21

TBT 5 years ago... I had just launched RKE Law Group only a few months prior with one of my partners. I was so young and new at EVERYTHING business. In an effort to bring in clients, I went to a BNI meeting (which I am still a part of and it's awesome), to see if I could join. I chose like the biggest group in Miami Dade to join so of course my category was already taken. But something magical happened that day. A women stood up during the meeting and mentioned she was going to this awesome event for women entrepreneurs right after and how amazing it way. So I went.. I was so happy I did. I learned more than I could imagine and met people I am still friends with today. I had no idea something so awesome existed and seeing this dynamic woman on stage (Michelle Villalobos, founder of the Summit) motivated the hell out of me. Here is a picture of me at my first summit: 

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Yep, that's me in the center. I felt just like I look- happy and in LOVE with the Summit. I wanted to be up there. I wanted to be like the women up on stage, making an impact and just being awesome and successful. I am visual so the best way for me to describe what happened to me that day is this: I went from being a Black & White TV to Color. From Analog to Digital. From flip phone to SMART. You get my drift. 

From then on I kept attending. It kept me motivated and inspired. Provided me with the tools I needed to be different and get clients. I quickly grew my law firm, and the minute I had the money I sponsored the event. I did this 3 or 4 times in a row and each time I got clients, I met incredible women, and I got up on stage. We got up there and sang one year. Another one we told our story. It was so empowering. Did you know that I had a HUGE fear of public speaking and the Summit is how I got over it? Yeah. Pure Awesomeness. 

And after all of this, I decided this year that I wanted to do my own conference. One where mindset and spirituality was integrated with business. And just 3 days later, Michelle Villalobos came into my office for a half-day session we had purchased and invited us to be a part of her Summit. Talk about manifestation! So now I am happy to say I am co-producing the Summit with Michelle and my partner Alexandra (owner of Embrace the Esquire), and guess what else? This year it has been expanded to include Mindset and Impact. So not only do you get all of the amazing value for your Business, you also get tools and topics surrounding your Mindset and how to best Impact the planet. 

Did you know that the Women's Success Summit was also just listed as one of the top 8 Conferences to go to this year? Check it out!

So here's the thing. You need to take an action to go. You need to register. But its' super easy and  so worth it. You can do it here.  

Early Bird Pricing just got extended to October 31- it was supposed to end today. We WILL sell out of this event this year ladies. 

And if you want to take it up a notch and sponsor this year, send me an email or message and I'll tell you about my experience, and what we have available. You can email me at mreyes@rkelawgroup.com. 

With Lots of Love,

Monica 

P.S. I also have this really awesome Kundalini Yoga and Business Awareness Workshop tomorrow. If you haven't already RSVP'd please do so. You know who you are! :) We have a limited amount of space. 

RSVP HERE